Today's parents are constantly pressured to be perfect. But in striving to do everything right, we risk missing what children really need for lifelong emotional security. Now the simple, powerful "Circle of Security" parenting strategies that Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell have taught thousands of families are available in self-help form for the first time. Readers learn how to protect and nurture babies through teens while fostering their independence, and what emotional needs a child may be expressing with difficult behavior. Vivid stories and unique practical tools offer insight into how our own upbringing affects our parenting style (and what to do about it). This book puts the keys to healthy attachment within everyone's reach--self-understanding, flexibility, and the willingness to make and learn from mistakes. Mental health professionals: See also the authors' related intervention manual, Circle of Security Intervention: Enhancing Attachment in Early Parent-Child Relationships.
"If you are looking for a practical, wise, science-based, and accessible guide to creating the kind of attachment your child needs to optimize development, you've come to the right place!...What a gift Raising a Secure Child is for us, for our children, and for the world... A masterpiece."--from the Foreword by Daniel J. Siegel, MD, coauthor of The Whole-Brain Child "From the creators of the Circle of Security, which has changed parents' and children's lives around the globe, comes this remarkable guide. Down to earth, witty, and so, so smart about the complexities of parenting, Raising a Secure Child is a revelation. It provides a clear roadmap for all parents who want to give their children the very best beginnings possible. You will wish your parents had read this book, and if your children are grown, you will want to start all over again."--Arietta Slade, PhD, Yale Child Study Center, Yale University School of Medicine "This book is outstanding in every respect--beautifully written, scientifically sound, loaded with excellent examples, and full of deep wisdom. What these authors have learned and are able to teach us can make a huge contribution to the well-being of your children and family."--Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology, University of California, Davis "A 'must read' for parents of young children. The authors translate decades of psychological research into accessible and meaningful advice. Reading this book is an opportunity to learn about yourself--because, it turns out, knowing your own strengths and vulnerabilities is a vital key to parenting."--Charles H. Zeanah, Jr., MD, Department of Psychiatry, Tulane University School of Medicine
Kent Hoffman, RelD, Glen Cooper, MA, and Bert Powell, MA, are psychotherapists devoted to translating complex developmental research and clinical insight into straightforward and accessible guidance for individuals and families. They have had a shared clinical practice in Spokane, Washington, since 1985. Much of their work has focused on creating the Circle of Security, for which each has received the Washington Governor's Award for Innovation in Child Abuse Prevention, among other honors.
Christine M. Benton is a Chicago-based writer and editor.
Introduction I. All Around the Circle: Understanding Attachment and the Importance of Security 1. Attachment: Why It Matters 2. Security: Befriending Imperfection 3. A Map for Attachment: The Circle of Security 4. Being the Hands on the Circle 5. Shark Music: How Our Childhood Echoes in Our Parenting 6. Behavior as Communication: Cues and Miscues II. Creating and Maintaining the Circle: How to Be Bigger, Stronger, Wiser, and Kind-and Good Enough 7. Shark Bones: Exploring Our Core Sensitivities 8. Testing New Waters: Choosing Security 9. Staying Afloat: Choosing Security Over and Over as Your Child Grows Resources